The last year has been a challenge for many of us – and we’re the lucky ones. If there’s one thing I’ve learnt over this time, it’s what really matters – family, friends and our health. I cherish these and for me, they are at the heart of everything I hold dear.
Our mental, physical and emotional health has taken a collective battering and it’s still not over for many. Nothing prepared me to recognise or cope when my daughters experienced a sudden onset of mental illness. I have coped as best I can, but I do like feeling like I have my shit together and this event, out of the blue, has really taken away any feeling of being in control.
Recovery from these things can take years. It’s not a sprint but often a gruelling marathon run with your legs tied together. Recovery isn’t a journey that trends smoothy upwards either. Setbacks are to be expected as it loops around on itself, often veering terrifyingly backwards. This is a journey that takes strength, courage and resilience to find your path back to a happy and healthy life.
The strongest people are those who win battles we know nothing about.
The fight isn’t over for us, but now hope can shape our immediate future. We know that we will get there, because we won’t give up. Sometimes we succeed and sometimes we don’t, but we know we’re doing our best and to have our own piece of mind, that has to be enough.
I continue to focus on the things I can control. Taking a little me time and thinking about the positives – and there are always positives. Trying my best to appreciate the little things every single day.
So, if anyone else is struggling with mental wellbeing in any way – don’t give up, there is hope. When we talk about our feelings, they become less overwhelming, less upsetting and less scary. That moment when you find out that your struggle is also someone else’s struggle and that others have been down the same road, you stop feeling so alone. Your strength and beauty exists even when you cannot see it.
I feel compelled to share this to explain why I have been a little quiet lately. Thank you for your patience as I go through this journey with mental wellbeing.
If we start being honest about our pain, our anger, and our shortcomings instead of pretending they don’t exist, then maybe we’ll leave the world a better place than we found it.”
If you’d like to spread a little cheer read on for 40 Random Acts of Kindness to make someone’s day.